Handling the First Days After Losing a Loved One
Nearly everyone is confused about what they should do when a loved one has died. In some cases you may be in shock and be grieving, but it is wise to make sure that everything gets done correctly know to make things easier down the road, to make sure that things go smoothly and to make sure that everything is done in a way that your loved one would have wanted. While not everything you have to do when your loved one first passes away involves having to have a Long Island estate attorney, some of the things you do now can make a difference once one has to be hired.
The first thing you should do is to make sure that you find out if your loved one had written down any wishes for how they wanted their funeral or memorial to be done. This can especially be important in the case of someone who may want a religious burial that is time sensitive, or in the case of someone donating their body to science, where the organization the body is being donated to may have some sort of time limitation. Another reason this can be important is that your loved one may have already arranged their funeral and paid for it, meaning that some of the work has been done.
If there has not been a pre-arranged funeral, you want to find a funeral home as soon as possible. Choosing a funeral home is a personal matter, but you will probably want to find one that can deal with any special considerations or religious needs you may have and make sure that you find a funeral home that can work with your family the most efficiently.
Most likely, you will also want to begin to contact relatives and loved ones of the deceased. While a funeral home will often assist you in publishing an obituary notice, you may also want to begin calling people to inform them your loved one has passed. If necessary, get other people who are close to you to assist so that you do not get overwhelmed.
Besides the regular funeral planning, there are many procedural issues that you have to take care of within the first couple of days. It is best to hire an experienced Long Island estate attorney to assist you with what you need to do now. Your attorney will advise you on preserving your loved one’s computer and attempting to locate their will. You will also want to inform Social Security and ask the funeral home to get you a few original death certificates.
As your attorney will tell you though, you cannot move any money or property at this time. You would first need to have permission from the Surrogate’s Court and be appointed as a representative of the decedent’s estate before anything can actually be done with any of the decedent’s property or money. All of this can be done with the assistance of a Long Island estate attorney, by calling us at (516) 777-0647.
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